QUITE THE JOURNEY....
(Part 1)
I bounced back from a week long on and off headache and got the news that my aunt Rosa "Roquamae" passed. Roquamae was the name I gave her. Of course I have nicknames for just about everyone I know. (Not really sure why I do that) Aunt Roquamae basically helped raise me when I was coming up. She mostly helped babysit me and my cousin Rochelle. Her sons "Orange-Dre" and Donte were pretty close to me during those years. Particularly "Orange-Dre" (Andre) who sometimes took martial arts with me from the same teacher "Jasperzilla". Andre's dad Willie died like a year or two ago. Willie was the cool uncle who rode the big ass motorcycle. Aunt Roguamae had/has a heart of gold but she was one very strict woman. I recall her ironing her bedsheets. She was pretty intense with the cleaning obviously. I regret not getting a chance to talk with her before she passed. She was pretty bad off at some points and then appeared to be bouncing back so I kept my distance. Wasn't expecting her to check out. I kept in touch with "Orange-Dre" though on what was going on. Then the biggie happened....
Just as I had a few days before I received a message on Facebook from my cousin Tanya telling me to call home but this time she told me in an instant message to call my dad. So I did with thoughts running wild in my brain. My father picked up the phone with his usual calm manner but his voice had weariness in it. I asked him what was going on and he said with a sigh "Today you lost a little sister" and I was just numb and in shock at the same time.
Crystal and I were never close. I can probably count on both hands how many actual conversations we had but over the years I would check in with Dad because her health and that of her mothers began to fluctuate. Her mom was able to bounce back from a disease that devastated her body. First I think Crystals issue was diabetes then she started having some issues with blackouts. Maybe headaches too I think. We spoke on the phone when things got particularly hairy and I think I asked her the same thing I asked Dad....if they were getting second opinions on what treatments were being used. Then Crystal's condition got so bad she needed a kidney donor which she would eventually get and reject. Then later on just like my cousin Montressa she needed an amputation. (I will be so glad when science catches up with science fiction and we have fully functional prosthetic limbs like Steve Austins) What happened was that someone came over to check on Crystal and they couldn't get in the house so Dad came over and they broke in the house and found Crystal cold and non responsive on her bed. Dad did CPR and the ambulance came to continue attempts to revive her. Nothing worked however.
I think my mother called shortly after I got off the phone with my father because she'd heard what happened and wished me her condolences. Everything seemed a blur to me. In fact I am still processing everything and trying to come to terms with this double whammy tragedy. Trying not to be mad at the doctors. Trying to make peace with the fact the human race has basically failed so many people with radiation,chemicals and pollution....all these things that are rampant in society and harming the healths of so many and its pretty much accepted. Just drug us up and send us home. I think in many cases we just take the docs words without doing research or getting a second opinion. I was sitting down eating when my sister Stephanie and her son Semaj messaged me on Facebook. Semaj told me during our conversation that it would mean so much to my father if I came home because he needed me. It was then I realized I had to go home. Now was the time after almost 20 years. It was time for me to make that return journey.
I'd already missed a week off work and most of my sick days and vacation/personal time off was spent but when I called my boss and told her what happened she let me know all the employees are given 5 days of bereavement time so I asked for the time off and got approved instantly. She was very understanding. (She'd lost her mother last year to Covid) In fact all my bosses or supervisors were understanding. I had to work two days basically by myself because the officer I had the epic falling out with last year was off that Monday and then Tuesday when he came in due to pain from a hernia he wasn't able to do patrols. (Interestingly enough he didn't give his condolences but anyway....!) That Tuesday I only worked until 4:30am since my flight was at 7:30am. I'd packed after quite the adventure finding a travel bag. (A cute Armenien(?) dude saved the day by selling me a bag because the one I'd ordered from Amazon was just too big) I'd barely managed to pack in time and almost lost my keys. In fact I left a bag of oranges on my bed because I was rushing to get out the house to leave for work after packing and the LYFT was waiting downstairs about to leave my ass. Thankfully that night at work before my flight was a quite uneventful one.
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